Song of Solomon 1:2-4
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth — For your love is better than wine. Because of the fragrance of your good ointments, Your name is ointment poured forth; Therefore the virgins love you.
Hot chocolate lead, Errol Brown, aged 71, in 2015 died of liver cancer whilst at his second home in Barbados. Born in Jamaica, and raised in Britain, in the 1980’s he again got to the top ten in the hit parade with another soul/funk hit called, ‘It started with a kiss.’ If I could also pull upon the lyrics of another singer songwriter around the same period, it would be the afro-Irishman Gilbert O’Sullivan and his song, which bears the title of the first line, which asks, “What’s in a kiss? Have you ever wondered just what it is? More perhaps than just a moment of bliss. Tell me what’s in a kiss.”
I don’t go with the evolutionary suggestion of the development of kissing being rooted in the passing of chewed up food from an adults mouth to a babies, much like an adult bird to a screaming ever open mouthed chick. Neither do I go with the sucking action of babies breast feeding, no, a kiss is much more than an evolutionary by product of chewed up roast beef and Yorkshire pudding encased in someone else’s spit, plaque and odd bits of tooth filling. The Lord God did not make us from monkeys, though I must admit that I do bare a remarkable resemblance to the bonobo at 4:45am in the morning.
There is no doubt that ‘chemical’ information is passed between a man to a woman in the act of kissing. I am told that we possess a group of genes called the major histocompatibility complex, MHC, that form part of our immune system and give us our natural scent. Kissing is supposed to be then a good way to have a sniff of a prospective mate, whereby, our DNA can speedily decode and decipher if who we might be mating with is a viable and healthy proposition in producing strong and healthy offspring which in turn will possess a stronger immune system, thus increasing their chance of survival. When I look at the tattooed knuckle dragging Neanderthals down my street, I suspect there has been catastrophic failure in MHC. Having said that, my own wife, much like Job’s wife, nevertheless possesses an acute and instant decoding computer, indicated often when she says to me, “Hey halitosis breathe, go and brush your teeth before you come near me.” Ah, nature, it’s a wonderful thing. Yes, information is passed in kissing, but I don’t think it’s at a DNA deciphering level, but rather, it is at a “who had Garlic bread and Pizza last night then” level.
Never the less, kissing is immensely important, for despite cultural aberrations ranging from European triple cheek pecking to Eskimo nose rubbing, humans kiss for reasons of love, for God the creator, made our lips sensation centers of fat voluptuousness, where sensory messages cause hormones to flood the brain and body, fluttering the heart, and lighting up the pleasure centers of the old grey matter with feel good euphoria, thus furthering the feelings of attachment and bonding by relaxing, arousing, maintaining and cementing all the bonds of love with a simple but sensational sucking action. So, pucker up people! There is health and happiness for the man and wife in a good old snog.
The libretto of the Song of Songs started with a kiss. This is very important and especially relevant for these dark days. For when the long winter nights draw in, when work is tough, when the mundane madness of economic survival overwhelms us, often times we look forward to our summer break, a vacation away from it all, maybe even in the Bahamas. Looking to future fun is the right kind of escapism for present trials, for the difficult present is made more endurable by sucking out the marrow out of the coming joys of all our tomorrows. The wonder is, that it does not lessen them, no, but wonderfully magnifies both them and our expectation of them. In the same way then dear friends, we the church look forward to our own wedding, even the wedding banquet, the marriage supper of the Lamb. Look now, for here the Shulamite, representing the church, is at the wedding banquet and begins her opening number with a declaration of intense desire, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth,” and here brethren, beyond the melding of two mashing mouths, is a deep spiritual truth of the desire for coming and intimate ecstatic union with our Savior.
I shall tell you again of Pastor Les, an old church elder of mine, a big old bald headed boy who loved the pantomime of American wrestling. He died of a massive coronary and his remains where carried on the shoulders of big strong men down the aisle of the packed church, whilst one of his brother church elders led the happy parade, reading aloud Pastor Les’s favorite bible verses, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth — For your love is better than wine. Because of the fragrance of your good ointments, Your name is ointment poured forth; Therefore the virgins love you.” Pastor Les, looked forward all of his life to marriage union with His Saviour.
It is good for you to rejoice in the wife of your youth. Kiss her. It is good for you to desire the husband of your younger days. Surprise him! It is good for us all to look eagerly for the time to come, the great culmination of creation and redemption, even the marriage supper of the Lamb. For the church body as a whole, the eager expectation of this has been its passion for two thousand years. For you, as a member of that bofy, the passion of this expectation needs to rise within you and shall only do so with thoughtful mediation and considered contemplation. The first kiss of the Savior is a good thing to think about.
Encourage your hearts and calm your mind, by knowing that the darkness is passing and the light of a happy wedding awaits you. Your wedding! Think about these things and Oh how He loves you!
Tomorrow, prepare your wedding garment by living a holy, happy and expectant life.
Listen: Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His abundant mercy has begotten us again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance incorruptible and undefiled and that does not fade away, reserved in heaven for you, who are kept by the power of God through faith for salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ, whom having not seen you love. Though now you do not see Him, yet believing, you rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory, receiving the end of your faith — the salvation of your souls. 1 Peter 1:3-9 NKJV
Pray: When I think about the Lord, how He saved, how He raised me how He filled me with the Holy Ghost, how He healed me to the uttermost. When i think about the Lord, how he picked me up, turned me around, how He set my feet on solid ground, it makes me want to shout hallelujah! thank you, Jesus!Lord, you’re worthy of all the glory, and all the honor and all the praise! (Rita Springer)